One of the longest spells Elaine had in hospital was in late ’96 early ’97, when she stayed in the Harbour Hospital at Poole for nearly two weeks. This was when she had her second mastectomy and bi-lateral reconstruction. She was, I believe, the only patient in the hospital over the New Year period atContinue reading “NEW YEAR OPERATIONS”
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ANNIVERSARIES.
Not so many people know that Elaine and I married each other twice. The first time was December 29th 1995. The second time was July 18th 20??- we could always remember the day but later were never sure of the year. Our original wedding came shortly after Elaine’s divorce from her first husband was finalised.Continue reading “ANNIVERSARIES.”
ALTERNATIVE CHRISTMAS.
One year, 2006 I think, Elaine and myself had an alternative Christmas Day – on January 19th. It came about because of Elaine’s nearly step- dad Leslie. I say nearly because Elaine’s mum sadly died just before they were due to marry, but Les remained close, especially to Elaine. He was a nice man butContinue reading “ALTERNATIVE CHRISTMAS.”
Teardrops
At the top of our garden is a stone patio area in the shape of an inverted teardrop. I built it in ’96 when Elaine was undergoing her first ever course of chemotherapy. I was given the stone after building some mini dry stone walls for a friends mum and Elaine and I decided itContinue reading “Teardrops”
DOWN TO EARTH …AGAIN
Elaine had always wanted to fly in a hot air balloon. One year as a surprise I booked us a flight that hopefully would take us over our home and locality, which is what she particularly wanted to do. These flights are very weather sensitive and after many cancellations we reluctantly took a trip fromContinue reading “DOWN TO EARTH …AGAIN”
NEVER GIVE UP
Kempton Park Racecourse hold their antique fairs on the second and last Tuesdays of the month. Out of all the ones Elaine and I did in the 90’s and early 2000’s they consistently proved to be the most lucrative. They start at 6am so we had to sort and load-up on the Monday beforehand, thenContinue reading “NEVER GIVE UP”
FOREST HOLME HOSPICE
hospice (noun)….”A home providing care for the sick or terminally ill”. I first set foot here about eight or nine years ago. Elaine had had a terrible reaction to the chemotherapy drugs and steroids she was then taking. They de-stabilized her mind causing massive anxiety and horrific panic attacks. As she gradually got over allContinue reading “FOREST HOLME HOSPICE”
A Drive in the Country
Elaine always did say that the saddest thing when doing a house clearance was coming across the Christmas decorations. “These people never knew when they put them away that it was for the last time ever.” We had to keep many of them so that they would ‘live-on” somehow, or so she thought. Consequently ourContinue reading “A Drive in the Country”
A NIGHT TO REMEMBER(?)
I can’t believe that she’s gone. I was there when she died. I’ve seen her dead in her coffin. We’ve had her funeral, but I still can’t believe that she is not going to burst through the door any moment now saying “YEA! fooled you all. Now which miserable sods didn’t cry or send aContinue reading “A NIGHT TO REMEMBER(?)”
INTO THE ABYSS
As you will know by now Elaine has gone, but the end of her story has not yet been told. I’m Elaine’s husband Mark, and as I am now the ‘last man standing’ from the Blog title, I guess it’s down to me to complete the journey with you that she began just a shortContinue reading “INTO THE ABYSS”
a horse, a husband, and cancer 